Both men and women in the 40-60 age group can go through a midlife crisis. It is more common than many believe. And it hits the partner of the spouse-in-crisis like a jackhammer, out of the blue, often straining the relationship to breaking point.
A midlife crisis is characterised by sudden and significant changes in behaviour, choices, attitudes, and values. Psychologically, it is a response to doubt and insecurity about one’s identity, self-worth, and confidence.
In my work, I have met many women suffering from the impact of their partner’s midlife crisis. Their spouses are undergoing mood swings, giving in to impulses, withdrawing from family, moving away from responsibilities, becoming irritable and frustrated about things that did not disturb them earlier, having an affair or developing a roving eye, getting depressed, becoming unusually socially active, taking extra care of their looks or feeling dissatisfied with their life.
While the person going through this crisis needs understanding and patience from their partner, the partner’s own needs often get overlooked. As a result, many partners feel betrayed, burned out, lost or depressed.
Reaching out for help is useful at this time. Family and friends are a great support but their views may not be unbiased. Taking the support of a therapist or coach at this time helps the partner distance themselves from the high emotional charge of the situation. With that attitude, this period can become a transformative phase for the relationship where deep-rooted issues are addressed. The turbulence can lead to the growth and expansion of the individuals.
In the unconditional and non-judgemental coaching environment, I see many clients find clarity, comfort, validation, and direction for themselves amid choppy waters.
If this is something you can connect with, you can reach out to me for a session. Please email info@poshaklife.com or WhatsApp 90198 11807. Or directly book a call or session here.